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Five Ways to Manage Guilt and Shame

Five Ways to Manage Guilt and Shame

Like thieves in the night – plotting to steal your joy, these two emotions hold hands like depression and anxiety and often show up to sabotage your progress. Like depression and anxiety these are normal and necessary human emotions but like most uncomfortable emotions, they need to be […]

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Motivated by Pain, Pleasure or Sheer Will

Motivated by Pain, Pleasure or Sheer Will

Why is it so hard for people to make changes in their lives? Not just to success by reaching a goal, but to even just start change. Most people don’t come into therapy until they are miserable to a level that they can no longer bear. Once […]

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Holiday Triggers Can Cause Relationship Damage

Holiday Triggers Can Cause Relationship Damage

A year ago on this American Thanksgiving my family and I faced an intentional act of evil from someone close to us that makes this a bit of a “traumaversary.” Consciously it’s behind us and I won the battle and the war, but as with any trauma […]

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I See You. Creating Authentic Relationships

I See You. Creating Authentic Relationships

Finding people you can resonate with. Being seen. That someone gets you and knows you accurately. This is what we’re all seeking. And because it’s so rare, we often settle for less or try to “sell” ourselves to others in hopes that they will “get” us. The […]

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A Better Treatment Approach to Treating Depression and Anxiety

A Better Treatment Approach to Treating Depression and Anxiety

I am not anti-medication for psychiatric conditions, but I am an advocate for many proven individual and combination non-prescription drug based therapies for treating these conditions. I also believe that there is a lack of information in the medical community about alternatives and that a more inclusive […]

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10 Things To Help You Get Through Difficult Times

10 Things To Help You Get Through Difficult Times

Life is not always easy. It was never meant to be. Challenges stimulate growth and increase resilience.  But sometimes our lives can feel like one struggle after another with no breaks in between or no end in sight. These times challenge our resilience rather than building it, […]

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Stop trying to please everyone. Some people just hate peaches.

Stop trying to please everyone. Some people just hate peaches.

  “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” We can work on being the best versions of ourselves in this life in all the areas that are important to us and still that won’t […]

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Modelling Healthy Relationships. Who’s watching?

Modelling Healthy Relationships. Who’s watching?

I often talk about how we are in relationships with others and that’s really a generic term to refer to all connections with other people but today I’m talking about romantic relationships and partnerships and the importance of modelling healthy ones. Certainly for our own happiness we […]

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Stop Walking on Eggshells and Use Your Voice

Stop Walking on Eggshells and Use Your Voice

A common communication habit that we get into is walking on eggshells. This sense that we have to hold back or suppress what we want to say because we worry about another person’s reactions. It’s a way to avoid conflict and also a way to try and […]

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Resiliency. Being Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable.

Resiliency. Being Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable.

Resiliency. In the simplest of terms, it is the ability to experience all ranges of positive and negative experiences and emotional states and being able to not just tolerate those states and extremes, but to be able to come back to a baseline. Baseline is a calm, centered, […]

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