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3 Ways to Conquer Self Sacrifice and the Martyr Mindset to Find Happiness

3 Ways to Conquer Self Sacrifice and the Martyr Mindset to Find Happiness

We know that the glorification of busy is unhealthy and annoying. We know that constant self sacrifice and other passive aggressive behaviour we use to highlight how much we give and how little we get back is obnoxious. But we do it anyway. Have you noticed yourself […]

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Three Areas We Shrink In Our Lives and How to Reclaim Them

Three Areas We Shrink In Our Lives and How to Reclaim Them

As we get older, adulting – being focused on following the path of expectations, school, career, marriage and/or family – can cause us to shrink. We take the vision and energy and excitement we had for our lives when we were young and narrow it to be […]

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How to Spot a Liar? Stop Trying.

How to Spot a Liar?  Stop Trying.

How to Spot a Liar. 10 ways to tell if someone is lying based on psychology, neuroscience, or the latest social science paper of the week. We see these lists all the time. We want to be super sleuths or at least have Wonder Woman’s lasso of truth to […]

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3 Mistakes To Avoid When Setting Boundaries

3 Mistakes To Avoid When Setting Boundaries

Boundaries – the word has become such a buzz word in therapy and in relationships in general. I think it’s cool that it’s being talked about and becoming an important part of discussions. I used to be terrible at setting boundaries. I lacked the confidence to be […]

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What I Learned From Ugly People

What I Learned From Ugly People

Luckily I haven’t known that many truly ugly people. Some people have become very special in my life for various amounts of time. Others have passed through but been relatively unremarkable. But there have been some that I have worked for, worked with, befriended or dated (and […]

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Are You Receiving Love Fully?

Are You Receiving Love Fully?

I don’t often talk about love in the romantic sense. People get weird about it. But I am talking about love in every sense of the word…including the romantic sense. The healing and transformative nature of being able to receive love fully in particular. Kids are good […]

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Three Ways to Revolutionize Your Resolutions

Three Ways to Revolutionize Your Resolutions

There are lots of reasons why people fail at their New Year’s resolutions. Some say it’s that we set unrealistic goals that are impossible to achieve in a year. Others say that we set goals that are too small. I think both can be true but I […]

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Ways to Make The Holiday Season Something You Look Forward To

Ways to Make The Holiday Season Something You Look Forward To

My favourite time of the year. For so many reasons. Reflection, Gratitude, Learning, Goal Setting. I love the whole process and this is a natural time of year to get it. The holidays are not great for everyone though. Our losses seem more profound during the holidays. […]

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Motivated by Pain, Pleasure or Sheer Will

Motivated by Pain, Pleasure or Sheer Will

Why is it so hard for people to make changes in their lives? Not just to success by reaching a goal, but to even just start change. Most people don’t come into therapy until they are miserable to a level that they can no longer bear. Once […]

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Holiday Triggers Can Cause Relationship Damage

Holiday Triggers Can Cause Relationship Damage

A year ago on this American Thanksgiving my family and I faced an intentional act of evil from someone close to us that makes this a bit of a “traumaversary.” Consciously it’s behind us and I won the battle and the war, but as with any trauma […]

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